Welcome to the tent and another day to ponder life. We’re sure you are familiar with the best selling book, “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. This book is recommended by therapists around the world and for good reason. The analysis found within, the examples given, and the suggestions and reflections recommended all give the reader substantial material to …… wait for it…… Set Healthy Boundaries!!! Join us in the tent for another discussion about how to be your higher self by setting new boundaries or digging up some old ones.

Boundaries allow us time and space to dream, reflect, and be at peace.

~Zella Marie

Life has a way of bringing up new topics for us to decipher, a different terrain to explore and new boundaries to set. In this podcast we take a look at the interaction between roommates. How do we handle the transition from parenting the child to parenting the adult child? This requires a whole new set of boundaries as well as a new perspective. Can we be ok with taking space to ponder an answer? Can we allow that space when someone does not respond right away, in the manner that we expect or maybe even demand? Sometimes when we see the lack of boundaries or more applicable, when the boundary NEEDS to change, are we able to move forward?

Facing new challenges without boundaries can leave us floating in a sea of doubt, stuck between the decisions. And then there is always that problem of sitting in the seat of judgment. When someone takes too long to answer we tend to be critical in our attitude towards that colleague, spouse, or child. We all know the problem of getting roped into something we really don’t want to do. Can we make space for ourselves and others when we stop to consider the direction the event, the commitment, or the task might take us?

Here are some of the chapters in the updated and expanded edition of the book, Boundaries……

• How Boundaries are Developed.
• Common Boundary Myths.
• Boundaries and Your Friends.
• Boundaries with Your Family.
• Boundaries and Yourself.
• Resistance to Boundaries.
• How to Measure Success with Boundaries.

Moments with Your Higher Self

Carefully curated activities – we’re educators, we know that reflection on a topic (homework) works and these activities can help us share even more moments with our higher self.

As we ponder new and old boundaries here are some ways to view the terrain of your life:

• Who is the boundary serving?
• If you have something that needs to be done consider using the following to set boundaries and prioritize your steps…..Write the thoughts down, create an action list or timeline, walk away from it, and view it with fresh eyes.
• When an idea pops up or a request is made of you consider the following……Is this for now or later?
• Define or redefine your yes! Or your no!
• Try saying this next time …..Here are my limitations, will this work for you?

Thanks for listening and we’ll see you next time in the tent.

Zella Marie and Wendy